Struggling with money and poor mental wellbeing is often linked. Feeling low can make managing money tough and worrying about it can make you feel even worse. This guide is for you if you are experiencing poor mental wellbeing that may be affecting your money management.
What is poor mental wellbeing?
Poor mental wellbeing is when we feel sad or stressed, or are finding it difficult to cope with day-to-day life. We may feel like this for many reasons, such as loss, loneliness, relationship issues, money, health or work problems. On the other hand, there may be no clear reason why we are experiencing a period of poor mental health.
You can have poor mental wellbeing at any time and for any length of time. Your financial situation or worries about money might in turn be the cause of your poor mental wellbeing. Whatever the reason, it can happen to anyone.
How poor mental wellbeing can affect the way you deal with money
Examples of ways you might find yourself affected include:
- Your income could go down or stop if you can’t work or have to take time off work.
- You might spend money you don’t have on things you don’t need to make yourself feel better, but then regret it afterwards.
- You might feel anxious or stressed about doing things like talking on the phone, going to the bank or opening your bills.
- You might feel worried, anxious and nervous about day-to-day financial decisions you need to make – and so avoid making them.
- You may find that spending any money at all, or being in debt makes you feel incredibly anxious - even if you have enough money.
- You may not have enough money to spend on essentials.
If you are feeling very low or suicidal because of your money worries, you need to talk to someone now. Call 999 if you are in immediate danger or give the Samaritans a call on 166 123.
- You may find it hard to concentrate on decisions or take in all the detailed information you need to manage your money.
- You may forget to do things you need to do.
If you’re not sure if you have poor mental wellbeing, or if it is affecting your finances try the NHS Money Worries tool. It takes five minutes to fill out and can direct you to specific help based on your answers.
What to do if you don’t feel like doing anything
We all feel low from time to time and if you’re feeling like this, it can be easy to feel stuck and like you can’t change or improve your situation. In fact, being able to identify when you are feeling low and how this might affect how you make decisions around money is an important skill in itself.
If you are continually feeling low and it starts affecting your day-to-day life you should seek help from your GP.
When it comes to your money, often the sooner you begin to tackle the problem, the easier it will be to take control. That said, for some people, during certain times, finding the strength to deal with financial issues feels impossible.
Here are a few things that you can do to help you stay on top of things:
- Bookmark this page so that when you do feel like tackling your financial issues, you know where to come.
- Allow someone close to you to look after your post for you. For many with poor mental wellbeing, the thought of opening bills or statements is too much to bear.
- Try not to ignore your creditors, as it may mean that they continue to chase you, rather than giving you some breathing room to sort things out.
- If you can’t face going into to work, make sure you contact your manager or HR department to let them know you are unwell. Some companies offer extra employee support, which is free and confidential.
- Financial services firms and utilities companies are improving the ways in which they identify and provide support for customers’ different needs. If you feel up to it, actively contact your service provider to let them know you need more support. Ask if they have a specialist team or what they can do to help customers in your circumstances.
- Remember, actively asking for support and explaining your needs can help banks and other service providers provide better customer service.
- There are many ways to talk to your service provider. You can visit a bank branch or pick up the phone, use its online banking or web chat services
- Your GP or another health professional may be able to provide a Debt and Mental Health Evidence Form, which can help make sure that creditors take your mental health problems into account. Not all financial services will want to see written evidence of a mental health issue, though, so don’t feel you need to get the form before you talk to someone.
- There are lots of free tools out there that let you temporarily block websites for as long as you want. This might be useful if you have certain websites you use or things you like to buy when you are stressed.
Go to the Money and Mental Health Policy Institute website for a list of recommended tools you can use.
How to re-balance your finances when you’ve been feeling down
Poor mental wellbeing can mean you make financial decisions you didn’t intend or, alternatively, avoid making important money decisions. When you do feel like you can tackle your problems you need to do two things:
- correct any damage caused
- protect yourself from any future damage.
Here are some easy and practical things you can do:
- Online shopping sites and browsers often remember card details to make it easier and smoother to make purchases. If you feel at risk of making impulse spending decisions you later regret, removing the auto-filled information can help slow down your purchasing decisions in the moment. Google ‘how to clear your cookies’ to find information on how you do this.
- Call our money advisers who can help you with next steps. Or you can use our webchat service. Details are at the bottom of this page.
- Keep your wallet out of your living room or bedroom (wherever you spend most of your time), so you make it harder for you to spend.
- Consider asking your bank to add a note to your credit file (it doesn’t harm your credit record).
- Think about ditching credit cards completely if you are finding them too difficult to manage and get some free, confidential debt advice if you’re worried how you’ll pay them off.
- Download The Wellness and Recovery Action Plan (WRAP) that was created by Mary Ellen Copeland and others who have lived experience of mental health themselves. It’s a self-management plan you develop yourself to maximise your personal wellness.
- If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, get back in control by making small meaningful steps to build your confidence. Consider making a budget which will put you in control of your household spending and analyses your results to help you take control of your money. Our budget planner, only takes 10 minutes to fill out.
- When you’re feeling better, think about putting money aside for times when you might not be able to focus on saving. Our Savings calculator can help you understand how long it will take to save a specific amount, or how much you need to save to have enough by a particular date.
- If you have overspent and regret it, you can cancel or return items so you get the money back.
Mental health charity Mind has a comprehensive list of coping strategies for those who suffer with poor mental wellbeing, to help you help yourself.
Where you can get free debt help
If you have been experiencing poor mental wellbeing for some time, you may find yourself in hardship, where you don’t have enough money to pay for the basics, such as food and rent or mortgage or you’re unable to pay down debts.
There are many places where you can get free financial help and information. A debt adviser will talk through your money worries and find ways for you to manage your debts. They can suggest solutions you may not know about and can help even if you don’t think you have any spare money to deal with your debt.
They’ll never judge you or make you feel bad about your situation. Most people who get debt advice tell us that they feel less stressed or anxious and more in control of their life again.
If you don’t want to tell them about your low mental mood - that’s completely fine - but they may find it helpful if you give them the full picture and they won’t judge you if you do open up about how you’re feeling. A lot of people have feelings of stress when seeking debt advice; you’re not alone and it is not a sign of weakness if you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed.
You can talk to debt advisers online, on the telephone or face-to-face - however you feel most comfortable.
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Dealing with creditors when you have poor mental wellbeing
A creditor is someone you may owe money to, such as your bank, building society or lender. Many people are worried about talking to their creditors about their poor mental wellbeing. However, it can be a really good thing to open up because once a creditor is aware it has to make adjustments and deal with you fairly.
Consider telling your bank or other creditors about how you are feeling. MoneySavingExpert has a downloadable booklet that takes you step by step through the pros and cons of telling your creditors. Some pros of letting them know include:
- They must give you a reasonable time to find information.
- Banks should keep any debt in-house. Sometimes when you don’t pay back the money you owe, they sell off your debt to a credit agency who might chase you for the money. Telling your bank might stop that.
- They should refer you to specialist teams who are trained to understand how you are feeling.
All creditors should also consider the Money Advice Liaison Group’s guidance. These are agreed industry guidelines for how they should deal with you when they are aware of your mental health issue.
It can help to know what the guidelines are so you know how you can expect to be treated if you choose to tell them about your condition.
You can also choose to add information about any mental health problems to your credit files in a notice of correction. This can be added or removed whenever you want, and will leave no footprint of any kind. The snag is it means any future credit applications will be assessed manually.
Find out more about notice of correction on Mental Health and Money website
If you think you have been unfairly treated because of poor mental wellbeing
If you feel you have been unfairly treated by your bank, building society or lender after you have told them about your mental health, you must first give them an opportunity to put things right. The simplest way to do this is to speak to a supervisor or a manager. If this doesn’t sort things, complain in writing.
Having poor mental wellbeing can make it extra hard to start a formal complaint procedure, so you could ask a friend or family member to help you instead. You could agree what to include in a letter, ask them to type it for you, and then you can sign it. They could also go with you to your branch to make a complaint as moral support.
If you don’t resolve the issue and feel you need to take your complaint further, you can contact the Financial Ombudsman.
Managing your money if you’re in hospital
If you experience a crisis in your mental health, there is a risk to your safety or you need more intensive support, a doctor may recommend you are admitted to hospital, This can be upsetting, but if necessary will be an important step to getting the help and support you need.
Things it’s important to know if you go into hospital for 28 days or longer include:
- If you are getting Disability Living Allowance, Personal Independence Allowance or Attendance Allowance, your benefit will stop
- If someone gets Carer’s Allowance for you, their benefit will stop at the same time.
- You can continue to get Housing Benefit for up to 52 weeks
- If you are getting Employment and Support Allowance it will continue to be paid but depending on which type you are getting, you may lose some premiums or housing costs
- Universal Credit will not usually be affected for six months
- You need to continue paying your bills. Think about setting up a direct debit so it’s done automatically
If you get benefits, tell the Department of Work and Pensions (DWP) - or the Social Security Agency (SSA) if you are in Northern Ireland.
Tell your local authority if you get Housing Benefit or pay Council Tax (as you may qualify for a reduction).
If you don’t tell the agency dealing with your benefits, they may continue paying you and you may end up owing money.
You may need someone to help you do some of these things. Read our guide Getting informal help to manage your money for more information.
Go to the Mental Health and Money website for more help you can get and things you need to do if you are in hospital.
Benefits if you have poor mental health
If your condition persists or worsens and you are diagnosed with a mental health condition or other disability, you may be entitled help with benefits.
Anyone over 16 who has a diagnosed mental health problem may be entitled to a Personal Independence Payment (PIP) if you need help with everyday tasks. This isn’t means tested, so you may be able to get it whether have an income or savings.
If you can’t work for an extended length of time because of your illness and you’re not entitled to Statutory Sick Pay (or it has run out), you might be able to claim Employment and Support Allowance or Universal Credit to help replace lost income. If you’re claiming a sickness or disability benefit, you will usually need to have a medical assessment as part of the claim process.
The Mental Health and Money Advice website has a full list of benefits you may be entitled to if you are suffering with mental health issues, or if you are a carer of someone who is struggling.
The charity Turn2us have an online calculator you can use to see what benefits you may be able to claim.
How to help someone with poor mental wellbeing manage their money
As friend or family member, you know the person you are worried about better than most. So you can spot (sometimes before them) changes in behaviour that might send off warning signals.
You may want to make an agreement that the person lets you know if they seem to be becoming unwell. You could make an action plan together, for example, you look after their credit card or bill payments when they feel unwell or help them make a GP appointment.
If you are worried about someone you know being under too much stress, the Samaritans has a page on what to look out for if you are concerned that someone you love is harming themselves, having suicidal thoughts and might be at risk of suicide.
If you want someone to help manage your money
You can choose someone to help manage your money if you want to.
Rethink’s Mental Health and Money website has a full list of options and things you should think about, including how someone can help you pay bills, deal with benefits or talk to your bank or other service providers, such as your mobile phone, gas or electricity provider.
You can also read our guide Getting informal help to manage your money
Mental health is complex and there can be many other symptoms other than feeling low. If you (or someone you care for) needs support with mental health, these organisations can help:
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